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Knocking out debt πŸ’ͺ🏻

An up date from a precious post… we have now freed up over $1087 each month! πŸ™ŒπŸΌπŸ™ŒπŸΌ

Lets see a recap…

And as of yesterday– Citi and I parted ways. πŸ’πŸ»β€β™€οΈ it feels so good to cross that bad boy off the list!

So here’s the deal..

We are doing some avalanche work right now. It’s basically the opposite of Dave Ramsey’s plan. And don’t get me wrong– I am such a fam of Dave Ramsey. I listen to his podcasts every day on my way to and from work JUST for the inspiration and tips. However– when we knocked out our small debts we knew there were 2 that we wanted done quickly due to interest rates:

A Credit card that had over 24% APR and my bonus sons’s student loan at 8.6% interest rate.

So here’s the deal… we chose to get off course for a bit. It goes against the snowball method but it serves a different purpose for us. The credit card had an average of $350 in interest each month. And the student loan, well, that interest rate is ridiculous but my husband did the Parent Plus loan so we don’t really have any options on it.

Maybe you’re trying to decide between the two. Maybe you have tried both. It’s OK! The bottom line is knocking that debt out, right? Some people can get super stuck/committed to one and lose sight of the purpose.

I hope your journey is going well! Hang in there. Stay motivated and if you feel like throwing in the towel(or the hat? I dunno phrases are not my thing) reach out first! Email, instagram… I’m here to help!

Thanks for reading!

For now,

CaraRoxanne

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Uninvited

Have you read this book? I’m all for anyone reading it BUT if you are a woman it’s A MUST! Download it on your kindle, get it for free from your library or send me your address and I’ll mail it to you. It is a MUST read.

Here’s the deal– I’ve spent my entire life living with that feeling of rejection. I always had my family who supported me no matter what but I often was rejected everywhere else. I assumed I would reach a magic point in my life when rejection either didn’t happen or I didn’t care. Well… I’m still waiting on that moment to arrive.

Rejection stings. Feeling “uninvited” or out of place. Or maybe you are like me and you simply struggle to find your niche. This feeling doesn’t have to overtake you! While I’ve always known that my Heavenly Father was there with/for me, I don’t think I ever meditated on the fact that HE was rejected. The feeling I have when I don’t fit in, or don’t get invited, or don’t feel like I belong… my Father felt that way. He is who I need to cling to.

I’ve always blamed it on me being a loud mouth. πŸ€·πŸ»β€β™€οΈ I mean, facts are facts. I’m too much for some people. I’ve spent years taking my temper and my tongue but some will always leave me out because they remember how I’ve been or know how I can be. It hurts! Especially when I know I am NOT who I once was.

Being vocal and outspoken has its perks but has so many negatives. I can’t change who I am but I can continue to work to improve on myself. I want so desperately to NEVER reject others. That’s probably not very realistic but it’s my goal. I work hard to include even when others don’t do the same.

If you feel rejected or alone PLEASE read this book. And reach out. I’m here and I’ve been there. But above all… if you feel rejected seek the One who was rejected and despised and loved anyway. I’ll never be Jesus, but I sure want to be like him.

Thanks for reading!

For now,

Cara Roxanne

What I learned from a 21 day social media fast

1. It wasn’t as hard as I anticipated it being

Like I was pretty freaked out thinking it was going to be so difficult! I pumped myself up with pep talks. And then-BOOM! The day came to give it up and it wasn’t that bad. Then it became super easy. And now I’m debating on social media moving forward.

2. Facebook will email you if you take a break

It’s insane! I got emails from Facebook that said “______ just updated their status.” “_____ added a new photo”. I think FB was freaking out that I was like dead or something.

3. No one noticed I was gone

I guess I shouldn’t say that. But the truth is that the people I most closely “follow” {makes me sound like a stalker} are people I see or talk to on a regular basis. I did hop onto FB and instagram this morning and after about 30 seconds on each, I shut it down. I realized that I felt overwhelmed by all the photos, words and videos. I have NOT missed that. But my point is that the world kept on going. People continued to live their lives and post about it. No harm in that! But was my social media presence truly missed? Not at all. That’s something to chew on, isn’t it?

4. We are a vain society aren’t we?

Over the past 21 days I have taken less photos. I still went and did some cool stuff but I didn’t document it by a photo. Isn’t that strange? Perhaps it is because I wasn’t going to be posting it for others? That is sad! It hit me that we as a society are kinda vain. Gosh- that includes me!! I don’t like having that realization.

5. I felt less stressed

Mentioned above, but it is so true! I didn’t feel pressure to check in to a restaurant. I wore less makeup. Perhaps because I wasn’t going to be posting any pics? I’m sure you are well away of our “frugal” lifestyle and financial changes. We had several days that we STAYED HOME! Didn’t go and do anything special. Just legit played board games and watched Hulu reruns. If I had been on social media on those days [i feel strongly] I would have felt down. I would have seen other families/couples out doing cool stuff while we sat at home vowing not to spend a dime. I would have felt pressure AND temptation to get off track. Talk about stress!

6. I take less pictures

That part makes me sad. I did take a few–I’m still ME! But not near as many as I would have without the hiatus from social media. We went with our friends on a hike in the National Park here in Hot Springs. It was cold, but perfect at the same time. We all stopped and watched a chipmunk for a few minutes. I had never seen one that close! I chose not to document it with photos. {regretting that now}. But the point is that I just experienced it. There’s a lot to be said for that.

7. We use social media for everything!!

I was trying to remember the name of a store I love down on the River Market in Little Rock. We went there yesterday and stayed the night {on hotel points! Promise!!} yesterday and I wanted to run into my store. I knew I followed them on Instagram but couldn’t recall the name. Man- we use social media for so much!! One of the places we went had a sign for a discount if you “check in” on Facebook. I wasn’t buying anything so it was fine but even discounts come through social media!

8. Traffic on my blog was down

Without the occasional “here’s my new post” on social media, I saw a slight decline in traffic. Kinda hurt my feelings! Like come on- I have to remind you to read this?? (Totally Jk) Social media CAN be a good thing!

9. I kinda enjoyed the privacy

It was interesting to realize that no one knew what was going on in my life. And I liked it! Social media provides open doors for conversations such as “how was dinner last night? We’ve been wanting to go there.” That type of stuff happens to me a lot. And I love it because I love people and it provides small talk and open doors for friendships. But it was pretty darn nice to know that we were just doing our thing without anyone really knowing where we were. (That sounds like we were doing something bad. Can’t figure out how to better word thatπŸ€·πŸ»β€β™€οΈ)

10. My return will be different

I don’t think I abuse social media but I definitely am a “post too much” kinda woman. I don’t mean to me!! We do fun stuff. We go cool places. My child is just so cute and says the funniest things! I’m USED to posting on a super regular basis. But now that I’ve had a break… it’s going to be different. I haven’t decided my new “rules” but I’m praying and mulling them over. I so enjoy keeping up with people. My family is scattered and I enjoy seeing their photos. Makes me feel like I’m apart of their lives even though we are far apart. I was telling my husband on the way home this morning that “I’ve literally spent hours of my life looking through peoples photos and they were people I didn’t even like in high school! Why do I do that!!??” It’s a distraction. If I have felt stressed or been bored I have grown accustomed to hopping on social media. No more. I realize how much time I have wasted that I will never get back.

It was difficult not having social media during the Golden Globes, Oprah’s statements that eluded to her running for President, the Government shutdown!! I mean that was super tough! But the bottom line– no one REALLY cares what my opinions are on issues like that. And if they DO care they will probably reach out and ASK me! The feelings I experienced while not being on social media taught me a lot more than these 10 things. What a good lesson that was for me.

What are your thoughts on social media? Have you ever taken a break before? I’d love to hear from you!

Thanks for reading!

For now,

Cara Roxanne

21 days of fasting

Our church begins every year with 21 days of fasting. Some choose to fast food and some pick something else. I chose social media.

Hear me out, I love social media! I keep up with my friends and family through FB and Instagram. I follow funny people like the “I ain’t doing it” Lady who totally brighten my day! And I get a large portion of my news through social media. ABC news articles, New York Times and of COURSE E News {all the essentials}. There are times I sit and scroll (kill time) but for the majority of the time I can honestly say it’s purposeful. But my oh my is it a distraction! Hop on Instagram to flip through and 2 hours later I know what everyone wore on Christmas Eve {hint- pajamas}, I’ve got 6 items in a cart of some boutique I’ve never heard of and I can’t stop trying to make the perfect story!!!!! Someone HELP me!

It’s a distraction for me. But unfortunately it’s distracting me from LIFE! Ten minutes turns into an hour without even blinking. And the comparisons! My word! I find myself feeling so inadequate after I have spent too much time on social media. I don’t know if every woman in the world has unlocked magical filters that I don’t have or if I really am this plain!!

See- that’s where my thoughts go, and I want THEM to go in 2018. Starting my year by a 21 day social media fast is what I need, and what I feel called to do.

I will continue to blog during that time and I have already loaded my Bible APP up with some great bible studies. I feel like it’s going to be somewhat tricky so I’m deleting my FB, insta and Snapchat apps so I don’t “accidentally” get on them.

Purpose:

The purpose for me is simple… start the year off with God First in my life. Spend 21 days eliminating distractions and using that time to read His word, engage with my family and focus on the important things in life. Also I want to determine if there is a correlation between social media and my attitude/confidence. The question to answer is: does social media cause discontentment in myself in ANY way? That’s what I’m out to discover.

I feel like this is an excellent way for me to give up(fast) something with the intent of replacing that with Gods word and time with Him. I also this is a way to keep my focus where it should be in 2018. It’s going to be an excellent year- but a tough year in regards to so many aspects. Prayerfully hoping this Fast will allow my focus to stay on point!

Here’s to 2018! May your year be filled with peace, love and laughter! I’m off to Family Christmas in Nashville, TN!

Thanks for reading,

Cara Roxanne

Going through the Big D…

And I don’t mean Dallas. Or Divorce.

DEBT!!!!!!

Debt will drown you, suffocate you, beat you up, ruin your marriage, wreck your life, and cause discontentment like you have NEVER known before.

Debt will KILL you…emotionally, physically and financially.

Okay so you think i’m being intense? I get that… maybe the WOW factor will work for me like it does for Dave Ramsey? Nah… i’m being extreme. But Debt… guys, it has GOT to go.

The day we looked at our debt.

debt

So I mentioned before that in a long car ride my husband and I had a true/intense conversation about debt. We were listening to Dave’s podcast and discussing topics he was covering that day. We decided that we were FINALLY on the same page and wanted to do something about our debt. Here’s the thing… like many people in the world, our debt doesn’t really effect us. Together we make a comfortable living and having a few credit cards, car payments, and student loan debt is not something that keeps us up at night. {All the praise to HIM for He has blessed us beyond what we deserve.}

That being said… we decided a year ago to become faithful tithers. We have been tithers before but somehow along the way we slacked. I’d forget to bring the checkbook, promise to double up next month, and just forget. Then I felt like I couldn’t pay off my debt to God so I kinda felt defeated and didn’t want to tithe anymore. We decided in our spiritual lives and walks with the Lord that we wanted to get back to tithing. So we made that a goal this year. It’s been wonderful! I can honestly say that I have not missed the money we are tithing on. When I stop and LOOK at my budget I recognize that a large chunk of our money goes to the church… but when it comes down to it, we aren’t missing it. And praise the Lord for that! He has allowed us extra income when we needed it and He has been faithful to us as we are attempting to be faithful to Him.

My point… while our debt doesn’t keep us from living life, through the process of tithing and wanting to be Godly with our money, I began getting convicted about our debt. This topic came up during the long car ride {i’m such a baby… it’s only 4 hours but WAHHHH! I hate that drive} we began talking seriously about working on our debt. So we started!

We wrote down ALL of our debt. House, cars, student loans, credit card, furniture card…anything we could think of! That was scary! To see the bottom line of how much we OWE people was scary. Sure, we can pay our monthly bills but I don’t want to OWE anyone anything! In reality, it is partially a way of life (Don’t scream at me DAVE RAMSEY!) We couldn’t have bought a home and paid cash for it. We couldn’t have paid cash for our vehicles. For us at least, having some debt was “normal.” But like Dave says… having debt IS normal… BE WEIRD! I want to be weird. Weirder than the day is LONG!

Back to it:

Write down all of your debts.

Write down the minimum payments

Start from the smallest to the largest ignoring interest rates

Go to town!

We were fortunate to get a nice Christmas ($$) present from my parents. They may or may not be happy to know that we used that to pay off small bills. I had a TJ MAXX card that carried a small balance (Why not– for every $100 I spend I get $10 gift cards!… gosh i’m dumb) I had a Victoria’s Secret card that carried a fairly small balance (But I get a free pair of panties every month when I spend $10) and so on… we were faithfully making payments each month to two medical related events and we paid those off as well. Oh and Verizon [don’t get me started on how we ALL pay full price for our phones and they screw up before they are paid off]. We paid off that as well.

We took that Christmas gift and paid off 5 creditors!!!!!! So now…

I take the minimum payments from each of those and pour those over into the next creditor. It looks like this:

VS- $27 monthly

TJ- $35

Doc 1- $50

Doc 2- $50

Cell phone: $42

So now I have $204 dollars “extra” each month to pay on the next creditor. That creditors minimum payment is $116. Now I pay them $320 a month which means I am more than doubling up each month. That is how the snowball is created. This month we will pay that creditor off and then take $320 to roll over in the next creditor which has a minimum payment of $111. Once we reach the point of working on this one we will have $431 to pay each month… that’s how you get it done!

I will say that ANYTHING extra we have received this month (husbands bonus from work, sold a few things on eBay) we have applied to our debt snowball. What’s so crazy is that with each thing we have paid off up snowball has grown but so has our momentum!! I guess that’s the point Dave Ramsey has been making for years. Sure-you could start paying off debt by looking at the highest interest rate but by attacking the big ones first, but it is the momentum that keeps us going! We are celebrating with each payment and enthusiastically checking the balances of our debt and our accounts to see if there is something left over for us to use toward debt.

If you are JUST beginning to even think about changing financial habits let me tell you that as corny and crazy as this all sounds– it’s kinda been fun! I am constantly looking for ways to shave off money in my grocery budget. I’m finding things to do around the house to avoid taking a quick trip somewhere. (I want there to be money left in my gas envelope so I can go to Starbucks!!) It’s kind of a game, and it’s a challenging one.

I am consistently reading financial blogs and making notes of things to try. Maybe that’s how my blog can be for you. Take what works for you and throw the rest away!

We still have our things that we will NOT give up. I’ll write about those later. But I say that to encourage you. If you are thinking that getting out of debt and living on a budget means you NEVER have any fun– I want you to know that you are WRONG! I want you to hear someone who is living it tell you that I still have fun! We went to the movies Friday night with some friends and had a blast. And we had popcorn and coke too πŸ™‚ I’m not giving up every single thing in life that I love in order to get out of debt. But I AM willing to make true sacrifices NOW so that I won’t have to LATER.

Thanks for reading.

For now,

Cara Roxanne

 

Pizza Party on Fridays…

“And if you vote for me, I will make sure we have a pizza party EVERY Friday in the teachers lounge.”

I was in 5th grade. I just freaking wanted to be student council president. I was all set to win. The odds were in my favor. And then- the candidate I ran against busted out the “pizza party on Fridays” line and he won. I was devastated. I remember telling my mom through tears “Don’t people realize he can’t do that??”

I DESPISE BLANKET STATEMENTS.

DISCLAIMER–**But, for the sake of my blog I am not going to qualify each thing I say. I am qualifying it now. {As I have done in previous posts} I understand that every Republican/Conservative in the world does not feel this way and does not like who our President Elect is. HEAR ME WHEN I SAY THAT. I will use blanket statements for the sake of this blog, and my posts, but I in no way think that everyone shares the same feelings as other members of their respective parties. **

You just voted for the pizza party.

And it ain’t going to happen.

  1. You think you finally have a President that “hears you”. With all sincerity I say to people that feel this way… “HUH?” I mean I get it. I always think people who have never lived my lifestyle, don’t know anything about middle class America, and don’t even know where my state is, MUST be the type of person to “hear me” when I talk. (Where’s the emoji with the eyes looking up in a sarcastic way when you need it?)
  2. “But he’s going to stand for what I stand for! He’s going to get rid of gay marriage and abortion!” WRONG. He doesn’t have that power and 2 days after he was elected he recanted doing anything about either of those. He’s not building a wall either.
  3. “He’s not taking a salary! I mean come on guys, that is so admirable. Hillary totally would have taken a salary.” Ummm— he’s not taking a salary- good for him. He’s just going to cost America more in secret service/guards/protection than any president in history due to the fact that his family is not embracing the White House and he is said himself that he does not want to be there “full time.” Yes kudos for not taking the salary. {Gosh I need that emoji again}
  4. “The stock market has already gone up since the day he was elected!” Yep. And so have gas prices.

 

Enjoy your pizza.

Whole 30 Day 2… I can do it!

Today is Day 2 of my Whole 30 experience. I can do this. Right? {No-I am literally asking for encouragement right now.}

I mentioned yesterday that I have stomach issues. Hence the whole reason I am doing the Whole 30. There are times my stomach sounds as if there is an alien growing inside of me. (I have actually been asked if there was an alien growing inside of me by someone who heard my stomach. Why yes, kind sir. I am growing an alien inside of me. I cannot grow children in my womb but I can grow an alien in my stomach.) But for real- it’s bad. I am hoping that throughout this process of 30 days eating only Whole foods that I can figure out what makes my stomach crazy.

I know very little about the Whole 30.

I didn’t take the time to read stories about the Whole 30. I strictly googled “what can I eat on the Whole 30” and “What can I not eat on the Whole 30”. I don’t care why it came about. I don’t want to read about what refined-processed-partially hydrogenated- anything does to my body. I know it ain’t good. That’s not what this about for me. I am not trying to turn organic. I am trying to create a sense of normalcy for my intestines, stomach, and bowels.

So let’s say that you stumbled upon this blog and feel like me. You just really don’t care about why this is a good diet and all of the wonderful benefits… you just either want to try it for a quick, short lived fix on losing some pounds, or you are just a glutton for punishment and wanna give it a whirl… here is what you need to know.

  1. You can’t have peanuts or peanut butter. I know, right? But you can have other nuts. They say they are “tree nuts” but really just keep in mind you can have the expensive nuts. Pistachios, almonds, etc.
  2. You can eat a lot of meat and eggs. Roast, steak, pork chop, chicken, sausage, shrimp, fish… you name it you can eat. Lots of eggs! That part I do actually enjoy. I like starting my day with eggs and bacon.
  3. You cannot have dairy. Even yogurt with billions of live probiotics. You cannot have it. Almond milk only if it is unsweetened. No cheese.
  4. You can have potatoes! Bake them, boil them, slice them up and bake them. Just don’t add butter or sour cream and be careful on the ketchup (it can have sugar added). So eat the heck out of some potatoes. #carbs
  5. That brings me to the saddest part-=– no sugar. Seriously. NO. SUGAR. I’ll just leave that there. Basically you cannot have anything that I haven’t already mentioned.

Keep this in mind. For snacks you can have tons of fruit, unsweetened applesauce, nuts, and almond butter. And really that is it. But you can make a combination of those. I know I know… it sounds crazy. And maybe it’s because i’m a tad cranky. This is why I should have done more research but I didn’t want to- so I didn’t. I’ll keep going. You keep reading.

Breakfast: 2 fried eggs and 2 pieces of sausage. 3 cups of coffee.

Lunch: Big salad!! lots of spinach, cherry tomatoes, celery, onion, chicken lunch meat (organic, natural, and on sale).

Dinner: Big ol’ juicy steak with all Whole 30 approved spices. Mushrooms sauteed in coconut oil and olive oil. Red boiled potatoes with salt and pepper.

Snacks: Boiled egg. 2 packs of raisins. 1 scoop of Almond butter. Handful of pistachios.

Take away’s from today:

I didn’t miss the butter and sour cream on my potatoes. I craved caffeine more than I think I ever have. I don’t typically drink cokes like ever yet today all I could think about was Dr. Pepper. I assume this is detox? I have 4 boxes in my freezer of cherry cordials. They were supposed to last me until March. I’m the only one in the house that eats them and that makes me happy! πŸ™‚ However– i’m thinking once this 30 days is over I may just eat them all in one sitting.

I’m surviving… but i’m dang sure not thriving. #ineedsugar

 

 

Why IS my heart so broken?

I have spent all week trying to put into words why my heart is SO broken over this election. I may not have it ALL figured out, but I think now I can speak my mind at least to some degree.

Β 1. I personally LOVE Hillary.

Sure, she has made her fair share of mistakes. She deleted emails. And hear me say– that was WRONG. That couldn’t be more wrong. Not only did she delete them, but she KNEW better. It was kind of as if she was saying “the rules don’t apply to me.” I don’t like that. She knew better. She shouldn’t have done that. But let’s move on now… I have respect for her. She gave her adult life to making a difference. She made a difference while being the First Lady of Arkansas, she made a difference while being the First Lady of our country, and she made a difference as Secretary of State. Her accomplishments are endless. She has self-lessly (and probably at times self-ISH-ly) given of her time, her money, and her ability to make things happen. For that- my admiration is so strong.

2. The thought of a woman President made me giddy.

It’s time, y’all! It’s freaking time! We have had some amazing men run this country. Now I can say we have had men of different races run our country. What about a woman? It’s just time! It’s time to bring a female perspective to the way our country is ran. It is time to have a woman be in the highest position in this country. It IS time! I am proud to be a woman. I am proud of the differences I have because of having the nurturing, yet sometimes, emotional, traits that a woman possesses. I am STILL proud to be a woman, but America, it IS time for a woman to be President of the United States of America. I remember about 4 years ago when I told my daughter she could be anything she wanted to be. She went through a list of things: veterinarian, teacher, astronaut, and I replied yes to all of them. I looked at her and said “You could even be the President of the United States if you wanted to be.” She looked at me with her big eyes and said “I can’t do that mommy… that’s a man’s job.” I wanted to be able to tell her Wednesday that it had just happened- a woman had just been elected to run our country. And instead I had to explain how Donald Trump would [attempt] to run our country. I was ready to rewrite history. Don’t get me wrong- we are rewriting alright…just not in the way I had hoped.

Two years ago I posted a photo on my Facebook page. It was a photo of a bumper sticker had just gotten in the mail (from joining Emily’s List) and it said “A Woman’s Place is in the White House.” I was so proud of that! Someone I know well commented and said “No- a woman’s place is in the kitchen.” This was not said in gist. This same person replied to another similar photo this week where I had mentioned how I truly hoped in my lifetime I would see a female run our country. His response “I hope it’s not in mine.” This is yet another reason why I am so convinced that IT IS TIME for a female to run our country. These small minded, misogynous, attitudes have got to be put in their place!

white-house

3. America IS great. (in my opinion)

We don’t need to make it great “again” as Trump so loudly and proudly proclaimed (while wearing a hate made from China, I might add). America IS great! We aren’t the best at everything we do. We are behind is health care and education (and probably more areas) but we ARE a great country. We don’t need to go back in time and make changes to send us back in time… we are great NOW.

4. Donald Trump is an embarrassment to human beings. (in my opinion)

Donald Trump is NOT a man of character. He is NOT a man of faith. He is NOT a man I would want around my child. He is NOT the type of person I want in my life… let alone the type of man I want running this country. He has offended men (by insinuating that all men talk the way he was speaking on that video), he has offended women by degrading and insulting us by speaking of women as if we are “sex objects”, he has offended special needs individuals, he has offended individuals of other races and orientations. He has blanketed Hispanics as being “rapists” and “murderers” and has chosen a running mate that believes in therapy that can be used to “fix” homosexuals. Y’all- I am embarrassed.

5. I believe in having an open mind and an open heart.

I believe with all of my heart that Jesus loves all of us. He loves those of us who are of different races, backgrounds, SES, religions and sexual orientations. I don’t believe that we have to “celebrate” all of these differences (parades, special days, etc) but we DO have to love them. For me, when a President shows discrimination against minority groups, he is NOT loving them and he is not being open minded to those that are different from him. I believe that making a choice for someone else is wrong.

There will be more.. but for now, this is what I can digest and ponder on. This has been such a hard week. I’m exhausted, and i’m pressing on. The mourning is starting to end and the fire has been lit. I don’t like what I see in our Nation. I can’t just sit back and say “I wish people knew {fill in the blank}”. I have to make SURE that they know! Hillary- your inspiration has been passed on to a generation of women who are fed up and fired up. This is OUR fight song!

With much inspiration, sincerity, and love,

Roxy

Don’t forget to remember me.

Carrie Underwood had an amazing song years ago called “Don’t Forget to Remember Me.” Basically the song says don’t forget about me… and who I am… and I am/was in your life.

Here’s the thing… we all sin. We ALL have fallen short of the glory of God. We ALL sin. We may sin differently, but we still sin. Even if it looks different.

Don’t hear this as a post about it being OK to sin… that’s not it at ALL. But stick with me…

I’ve sinned (shock of all shocks). Some sins you know about and still talk about today. Some sins you have no idea about. But the truth of the matter is… there is sin in my life. When sin becomes public, people tend to forget the GOOD you have done. People tend to assume everything positive in your life is negated. Thank GOD that Jesus doesn’t feel that way.

Because I have sinned does that mean that anytime I spoke up in Sunday School that I was a fake? No!!! Does that mean when I asked for prayer or prayed for someone else that they weren’t heard-NO!!! That’s crazy!!

Look at people like Stephen Collins and Bill Cosby. Two men I grew up admiring– even if it was on the tv screen. Stephen Collins played the “Revered Eric Camden” and I thoroughly enjoyed the show “7th Heaven.” I learned a lot from that show. I loved the way he treated his family, the way he handled adversity— even if it was JUST a character. I admired that character.

I grew up watching “The Cosby Show”. I LOVED that show and still do. My whole family would watch that show together and laugh and then have discussions about the life lessons we learned from that show. Even to this day, I refer back to episodes of that show on a regular basis. {Remember- “the trash can lid”story? Still one of my most recited quotes from A Β tv show outside of FRIENDS.}

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I don’t agree with what Stephen Collins did and was accused of. I don’t support or condone that behavior in the least. And as far as Cosby… shame on him! If it’s true??– shame on HIM! That is horrible!! NO one should take advantage of a woman the way he is accused of doing. It’s wrong, horrible, sinful, degrading and plain ol’ wrong!

But that does that mean the lessons, memories, funnies, and laughter from his show are tainted? ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!!

We as Christians tend to think if sin is involved (and mainly if it is public since we ALL know we sin) that the person is tainted… wrong. Always wrong. And that is NOT the case. Thankfully, Jesus doesn’t see it that way.

I had friends and (unfortunately, people closer than that) who have seen me sin and make mistakes that have turned it around to be that I am “not the person I once was.” Β That couldn’t be further from the truth– nor could it NOT be more comical!! Absolutely I am the SAME person! I am the person that came out of the womb kicking and screaming, the person that led bible study at school and church, the person that loved to babysit, go to the local Walmart (since that was all we had), sing, listen to music, and Β the person that loved and loves Jesus and my church family– yet I am the SAME person that makes mistakes… daily.

To say that sin makes everything before the sin {became public} a lie is just plain wrong.

Don’t judge others. Just don’t. Because the plank in your eye couldn’t be bigger and more obvious yet others just love you and pray for you. We ALL sin… Don’t take the good out of someone or take the good memories and toss them away to make YOU feel better. It’s wrong and frankly, you look stupid. So stop.

For now,

Roxy

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