Faith, Family, Finances, Funnies, and Flarps



Tithing- it’s a HEART issue

Years ago I had a different blog. I actually made MONEY on that blog. And then one day I just got over it. I was so vulnerable at that time in my life and was using my blog as a form of therapy, so to speak.

Anyway, I was looking at it today and found several posts that were worth re-posting. This post was originally from August of 2012 but it is still very relevant today!

Original post:

Twice a year at our church, our pastor preaches on tithing. I love his approach to it because it’s not a yelling-screaming-fit from the pulpit about GIVE THE CHURCH MONEY! Thankfully, he takes a different approach. James, the pastor, speaks from his heart, and from the bible.

His focus is on being a blessing and recieving a blessing. No, I did NOT just say that if you tithe you will be rich. But more of THIS approach…

I have to paraphrase because I can never remember things perfectly.

Basically it’s like this… tithing is trusting God. Tithing is saying “Thank you God for providing, here is your cut==do with it what you see fit”. Back to the trusting part…

For me personally, in my lifetime, if anyone had asked me “Do you trust God completely”, there would have been a no hesitation response of ABSOLUTELY! Then about 6 months ago (the last time we had a sermon on tithing) I felt very convicted. I was not a tither. (I know, shame on me). I had heard about it my whole life but always said “I don’t have the money to tithe.” And I believed that answer. I did use my time and talents to help out in the church and to particpate in God’s kingdom, but I just didn’t do it with a checkbook. That was not WRONG or BAD of me at all. But then I go back to the trust part. I wasn’t trusting God enough. I said I trusted him in everything… but it boiled down to trusting him in everything BUT my finances. 

That was a wake up call for me. I began to really think about what it meant to trust God. I always knew he was there, he had helped me through some bad situations in the past, and all in all I felt blessed. But the whole trusting God with everything was so foreign to me. 

So I stepped out in faith. I wasn’t quite sure HOW I was going to pay all of my bills, buy groceries, put gas in my car, AND have money leftover. I just didn’t see how it was possible. But somehow I decided to do it anyway. Lots of people have “tithing” stories and HUGE MAJOR blessings that poured out on them the very next day. I don’t have some elaborate story to tell you but I CAN tell you that somehow I did not notice a difference in my finances. Here I was losing 10% of my income yet I couldn’t tell a difference. I have to believe that was God. Somehow, he made it work.

I don’t care where you to go to church or what your church background is… that is not the point. But i can say that trusting God 100% means just that. Every aspect of your life. Even that private and touchy subject of finances belongs to God. And we have to TRUST him in it. 

I have trusted God with my finances. And I am giving him 10% of my income. And even though it would be NICE to keep that money and get to spend some extra on fun stuff, I am stepping out in Faith. God has been faithful to me ALWAYS, and I want to prove myself FAITHFUL to him.

What are YOUR thoughts on tithing? I’m curious to know.

Here I am 6 years later still tithing. We fell off the wagon for a bit due to selfish reasons and attempting to regain control. (That never works well, does it?) I am so humbled and grateful for all of God’s blessings. He has continued to be faithful to us even when we lost our trust along the way. In all of this financial “season” we find ourselves in, we have never once considered giving up on tithing. Because I have lived and learned that God’s provision can NEVER be questioned.

Thanks for reading!

For Now,

Cara Roxanne

A friend loves at all times- Misty

It’s not 2018 yet but one of my goals is to show deep appreciation for my friends. I’ve learned this year how rare true friends are. Like I’ve known that-but this year my eyes were opened to the need for genuine people! I’m a people person for sure but I have reached a point where superficial friendships serve no purpose. True connection, honesty, and mutual respect are of the upmost importance to me. And I’m keeping up with that mindset I want to show appreciation for those who have enriched my life in such a major way.

Enter Misty. Mama Misty, as I call her. Not only is she an active participant at our church, but she’s an active participant in my life! She calls, texts, and shows a genuine concern for what is going on with my family. She allows me to vent, she prays for and with me, and is always a phone call away! Her heart longs to serve others and she does just that FAITHFULLY!

This year has been fantastic but that’s not to say there haven’t been ups and downs. She has showed compassion and grace and helped me to reciprocate that to others.

She makes me laugh- makes me smile- and reminds me there is still good in the world!

Thank you, Mama Misty for being YOU! You are so loved!

“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another”- Proverbs 27:17

Thanks for “sharpening” me, my friend!

Thanks for reading!

For now,

Cara Roxanne

Wrapping up 2017

This really was a terrific year!

I mean sure…a LOT went down this year in our world that makes me sad, but I am choosing to stay positive.

This year was FULL of exciting things for my family!!! Trips, graduating with my Masters degree, starting my “real” job, watching my baby girl hit new milestones and mature in ways that break my heart… It was a terrific year!

This year was full of FUN and laughter!

January was full of hard work as we prepared for our new floors to get installed! My husband is really lucky to have me as a help mate.


February was the month of love. Well,. more like the month of me and my bff’s husbands traveling all the time. So us and our kiddos had a fancy V-day dinner at Purple Cow.


But thankfully my husband made it home in time to take sweet Ava to the “daddy daughter dance” at church.


Aren’t they precious?!?!?!

In March I went to El Paso to see my oldest and dearest friend, Lauren. WHAT A BLAST we had acting like little schools girls just giddy as can be! I even talked her into walking over to Mexico for the afternoon. {I’m still shocked I convinced her to do so!!}


Then it was off to my best friends wedding!!! Steph and Jake had a beautiful ceremony and I was so HONORED to be a part of it!! Love you both!


And let’s not forget that March was also the month of musicals 🙂


Phantom of the Opera did NOT disappoint!


In April my friend Lindsey had a gender reveal party. I placed all my bets on a girl… and Amber placed all of hers on a boy. Which one do you think won?


May brought about graduation and a fun trip to NYC!!! #favplaceonearth


June and July were THE best!!!

My whole family came into town for a week of fun! Jere, Ava and I went to Dallas for a vacation, my sweet baby girl got baptized, and Jere and I headed to Cabo San Lucas for a week of fun in the sun! Oh and I took Jere to see RENT in Memphis. I mean it WAS on Father’s Day and I probably enjoyed it more but… well, surprise! 🙂 Thankfully he LOVED it! #RENTHEAD

Then it was time for back to school and all the excitement that comes with it!


After all the stress of school and work… we needed a break!

So in October we headed to CHICAGO!

Hamilton + some AMAZING sights!

ANNNND the next weekend we headed to San Antonio to watch our beautiful friends tie the knot!!!


November was PERFECT! I met HILLARY CLINTON!!! EEEEK!!! It was so fun! Gahhh–when I stop and think about it I am STILL so giddy!!! {She said she loved my shirt!}

And now it’s December. My FAVORITE month of the year. I love the music, the smiles, the sights… and the celebration of the birth of our Lord and Savior. Tis the season to share LOVE. So share it today. And if you can’t– at least try to be cool like us.


Merry Christmas from the Matthews! You are LOVED!

Thanks for reading!

For now,

Cara Roxanne

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