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Living my life backwards for far too long

It’s a fact. I have been living my life backwards

Buying when I couldn’t. Now I can and I won’t. Now I’m downsizing and doing without.

Now that I “don’t have to” and make a decent living I have to get rid of things I should have been doing without for years

Why did I think I deserved things when I couldn’t afford them? And why can I afford them and am totally willing to do without?

I am trying so hard to answer that question. And the only thing I can come up with is the old saying of “we always want what we can’t have.” When I really couldn’t (and shouldn’t) have purchased things- I did. And when I really long for financial freedom (and should be enjoying it due to hard work to get here) I can’t.

I was expressing this to my friend and my husband. Both laughed but it was the kinda laugh that hurt because it was that half-say laugh/half-way gasp for breath kinda laugh. My friend said “everyone goes through that. That wake up call of realizing what you did wrong.” My husband said “I’ve done that my whole life.” It wasn’t necessarily comforting to hear those words but it did solidify that I’m not the ONLY person who has been living life backwards.

NO MORE! I can’t go back but to go forward I have to relive some financial mistakes. I have had to come to terms with mistakes that will cost me years to fix. The funny part is that I’m okay with it. I mean- I’m not OK with being stupid and backwards for years, but I’m okay with facing it and owning it. I’m in control of this now. God is TRULY in control but you hear me, right? I’m in better control (and have a reign on) of spending and monitoring finances. For years I was terrified to login to my bank. I didn’t want to face what I would see. Isn’t that crazy?? Gahhh- that’s just so sad. {but true!}

Anyway– enough living backwards. Moving forward I feel like I have the tools PLUS the accountability from this blog. Let’s do this. Let’s live life FORWARD!

Thanks for reading

For now,

Cara Roxanne

Women may NEVER know what they want— my rambles on the Golden Globes.

 

I love award show season. I call it “MY superbowl.” Watching the Golden Globes while giving up social media was SO tough. ALLLL the things I wanted to say. ALLLLL the quotes I wanted to re-tweet… but I was good. PROMISE. I did not get on social media ONE time. {And yes– I AM patting myself on the back.}

Okay so here is my problem… there was a LOT of emphasis on the negative attention that is in the public/media eye currently revolving around men. Men have been busted out left and right this year. And SHAME on those men who did terrible things to women just because they could… or because they wanted to. It’s horrible. AWFUL. And, BTW… #metoo. Been there, done that, and hope I NEVER go back to those moments. The creepers who felt like they could touch my knee. Or the boss who always stayed in my office a little too long. Gross. Yuck. Shame on YOU.

Anyway-back to the point. Natalie Portman (who looked divine, btw) called out men for being on the only nominated sex in the Director category. And as the audience was shown clapping and applauding for her statement all I saw was… BOOBS. They were hanging out everywhere!!! PICK. A. SIDE.

dress

If you want to be seen a sex object then please continue with the nips popping out the side of your dress. But if you want to stand up for women being treated equally then for the love of cheese and crackers but your boobs away! Possibly the reason women are not treated fairly is because we {dare I say it?} talk out of both sides of our mouths?

WOMEN! We cannot stand up and asked to be treated as equals if we continue to carry ourselves in a manner that screams “please see me as a sex symbol.” I’m sorry. I said it. Hate me if you want but that is (my) fact.

The women in this world who are beautiful, smart, intelligent, LIFE CHANGERS aren’t showing up on a red carpet with their dress so low I can see their belly rings.

Hillary

Condi

Jackie O.

Margaret Thatcher

Michelle Obama

Ellen

These women stand up for the rights of women and fight to make real change in our world. And I can honestly say that I have never seen their breasts hanging out of their clothes. Is there a correlation between the two? I think so.

PLEASE don’t harp on how men have advantages in this world over women and continue to portray yourself as a sex symbol. Were you expecting a lot of respect from the way you were dressed? I have to think that you were aware of what parts of your body were noticeable to the world when you stepped out of that limo.

Maybe I have it all wrong. Maybe i’m out of line. I’m not trying to be disrespectful to anyone. Wear what you want. Dress how you want. I ain’t judging! But I AM saying that maybe you CAN’T have it both ways. Maybe it’s time to make changes to your wardrobe so that you can be heard and not just seen… because believe me.. we see ALL of you!

What are your thoughts?? I’d love to hear!

Thanks for reading!

For Now,

Cara Roxanne

 

Minimalist Wardrobe

I’ve spent a lot of time on Pinterest and talking with other bloggers/friends regarding the whole concept of a capsule wardrobe. Like I get it- but I’m struggling at the same time.

I completely see the logic in owning less because DUH! That’s what I am working towards!! But I do NOT see the logic (for me personally) in getting rid of clothes I WILL wear but I may not wear all of the time. I have the space. I have it organized and I HAVE downsized tremendously. I have gotten rid of tons of clothing so what is left WILL be worn. I understand that I might feel calmer if I went in my closet and only had 36 items to choose from. BUT I am not going to get rid of clothes that I will wear. 4

closet

**What I wouldn’t give to be THIS simple!!!**

That being said– planning ahead on my outfits has ALWAYS saved me time. My friends laugh at me because my daily calendar that I carry with me at ALL times contains important meetings, bills to pay that day, things to grab on my home, and at the very bottom I have listed what I wore. I did this in high school!! Isn’t that silly? Maybe so-but it works for me. On those crazy weeks when I can’t even tell you the last time I ate or had a calm, brief moment to regroup, I couldn’t tell you what I wore the day before. I have a fear of wearing the same outfit like LEGIT two days in a row due to being so crazy busy that I completely forgot. So, I write it down. That helps me. And I TRY to plan outfits in advance. Sometimes that fails. Weather in Arkansas is NOT predictable in the least so you may have a sundress and sandals planned and it ends up snowing. But planning SOMEWHAT ahead is very helpful.

What I DID do to eliminate some of the “closet dilemma” was this. I took away 8 pairs of pants and 20 shirts. I folded them neatly and put them in the attic in a special bin. I am not getting rid of them BUT this is a great way for me to see if I can make do with a smaller amount of clothes to choose from. I’m not getting rid of them so if I need something I can grab it, OR, I can decide to hang it back up and rotate something else out. That way I have LESS hanging to choose from/look at/get stressed by, but I am not throwing out perfectly good clothes that I will wear at some point.

It wasn’t as easy as I thought. It was SUPER easy to truly get rid of things that I knew I didn’t want to wear anymore. But looking at a closet that only contains items that fit/I like and trying to decide what to put away was difficult.

So I may not have followed the rules precisely, but that is A-ok. For me, this worked! I feel like I have less options which will eliminate some headache but I haven’t gotten rid of something that I will wear in the future. It’s hard to follow everything exactly which is why I ALWAYS say to take away what you can use “and throw away the rest!!!” Not everything you read on Pinterest (or a blog) will work for you so you have to add and adjust to make it fit YOU!

Thanks for reading!

For now,

Cara Roxanne

 

Biggest wastes of my money in 2017

I shouldn’t do this to myself… but in the 12 hours I spent in the car over the past week I had a lot of free time. I came up with several purchases I made that I totally regret. Care to join in? These are NO specific order.

1. Cable

I literally watch (or rather listen from a distance) about 20 minutes worth of GMA while I’m getting ready in the mornings. I hear just enough to know the latest stunt our president has pulled and catch the high temp for the day. In the evenings we watch Netflix OR reruns of “Everybody loves Raymond” or “Friends.” How ridiculous is that?? We have our shows for sure… but they ALL show up on Hulu the next day!! It’s crazy. I figured up we spent over $1500 this year on Dish Network.

2. Oil changes at the same dealership.

Thankfully I didn’t make this mistake ALL year. {this may not be the case in all states/all dealerships} My first oil change was free but they told my husband I needed a tire rotation as well. Let’s just say that rotation MORE than made up for the price of that “free” oil change. I purchased the extended warranty so I knew that keeping up with the maintenance was crucial but I also did my research and discovered as long as I can prove that I had the work done in a timely manner then it did not have to be from the dealership where I purchased. So- you see a local shop advertising oil changes for $20– go for it!! You get a coupon in the mail for $10 tire rotation- take them up on it. Just KEEP THE PAPERWORK!!!

3. Pedicures

This one is hard to admit. But I did spend a LOT of money on my toes this year. I love doing a mom/daughter date at the nail salon. And on a rare occasion I am okay with this. But I didn’t do it rarely this year– I did it OFTEN! When I began adding it up I felt sick at my stomach. I have sensed purchased a nice pumus stone to buff my own feet and have spent time looking up which essential oils can be applied to help with hard/cracked heels and toes. I can’t say I will not splurge on a pedicure in 2018 but I CAN guarantee it will not be often.

4. Monat

I had several friends selling Monat and I dove in. Why not? For some there were dramatic results. But for me, well, I have pretty good hair. I use good conditioner purchased at a discount and I allow my hair a break from heat (drying, curling, straightening) so my hair not what you call “damaged.” I spent over $180 dollars this year on the products and I cannot tell a difference. Not knocking the products at all! Just saying that for ME it was a waste. I will say this… when I realized I was not getting the results I expected {and I can’t even tell you WHAT I expected} I stopped using it daily and now use it once a week. It will last longer this way AND I feel like I’m still getting use out of it.

5. Cheap essential oils

Yes they WERE cheap, but I basically paid for things to smell good. I had a hard time spending the money (initially) for nice oils {like plant therapy, Do Terra, etc} but in turn I wasted nearly $100 this year on brands that were not true essential oils. Don’t get me wrong- it was HARD to pay for nice oils but at least I knew what I was getting!! To put it simply- if you are using a diffuser/oils to make your house smell like peppermint and that’s it– save your money and buy cheap! If you are wanting healing properties and wanted to ingest/ put on your skin, buy true oils from a trusted company! And if Young Living or DoTerra is out of your price range look up Plant Therapy. They are a trusted company who has super reasonable prices. [no one is paying me to say this!!! This is my opinion only]

And I’ll say this… I’m not throwing away my cheap oils. They can still be used to make the house smell yummy. Just this morning I used the type of candle that holds a tea light and has a place for oil/wax on top. I poured some of my cinnamon bark on the top and lit that candle. I just won’t be using those oils to add to my bath or rub on my skin. I’m working hard and not being wasteful!!

6. Organization and the tools to achieve it

I spent so much time, energy and money attempting to become organized in 2017. The problem with that is this… I didn’t need to get organized– I needed LESS stuff! All the labels, bins, tubs, calendars and compartments were (mainly) a WASTE. It didn’t hit me until the end of the year that I was never going to organize ALL THIS STUFF! I just simply needed less. Once I began my overhaul my life become easier and {surprise surprise} instantly more organized. It doesn’t take time and energy to organize less because well, there is an automatic organization that comes with less. Giving away, donating and trashing– all of which cost nothing has gotten me more organized in NO time!

Donate what will help you out with taxes! We had some furniture that we were done with. That was worth donating and getting the tax deductible form.

The mismatched socks were tossed. The worn out rags were tossed. Served no purpose-tossed!!!! That was easy!

The clothes that were in good shape were given to a friend who welcomes hand-me-downs or mailed to my sister.

The bottom line is that I quit focusing on getting organized and started working towards having LESS.

7. Subscriptions

I no longer get any magazines! Well, I say that. My mom got me a Southern Living subscription for Christmas but that was a gift. But I no longer pay for magazines or any other subscription such as Ipsy or FabFitFun. Here’s the deal… magazine articles are 99% online. I would get a magazine in the mail and then hop on Facebook and see half of the articles (the big ones) were free online. Unfortunately over half of what I got in my FabFitFun was nothing I wanted. I gave some away and the rest was stashed in my closet. It either wasn’t my color or wasn’t even my style. Sure it felt like a “bargain” in that the price was $60 per month and the value was substantially more BUT it’s not a bargain if you don’t need it!! I’ve made the best of it (re-gifted, saved for later) but that bad boy is cancelled. As far as Ipsy goes, it’s just $10 a month but a large portion of the products I didn’t care for. What I did like I have saved and even have a set of makeup places in my overnight bag just waiting on trips. But all in all it was a waste of $120 this year.

2017 was a year of growth for me. A lot happened and big changes took place. And while graduating with my Masters was a huge accomplishment, the change I’m most proud of his year is my attitude towards stuff and having a clearer view of what I want for my life. And that my friends is priceless

Thanks for reading!

For now,

Cara Roxanne

The day it happened!

I. Met. Hillary. Clinton.

I bought my ticket. Drove to Little Rock and waited in line for 3 hours.

All the emotions were going on simultaneously. Excited. Nervous. Thrilled. Scared. Talkative. Tongue tied. It was such a rush!

As I stood in line I kept thinking of what I wanted to say. I wanted to say so much… I needed her to hear me say how sorry I was that things turned out the way they did. I desperately wanted to share the pain I felt on November 8th and beyond… I wanted to know how inspired she made me feel! But I also wanted to be somewhat memorable. I had every reason to believe she would hear those things over and over…

So I told her I was sorry for what I said when I met her back in the early 90’s. My choir was singing at an event in Little Rock in which the First Lady and First Daughter (is that a thing?) would be attending. Hillary came up to my choir after it was over and said to me “what a beautiful voice you have!” I looked at the lady in a red pant suit with a pony tail AND a headband in her head and said “thank you. But my parents didn’t vote for your husband.” She smiled, kinda laughed and said “well– that’s okay!”

So as it’s my turn to walk up to the table I am prepared for my spill. She looked up and smiled, asked my name and shook my hand. She held my hand the whole time we spoke. She laughed after my story and said “well you shouldn’t feel bad for that.” She asked if I was still singing , released my hand, and I told her “Thank you for inspiring me to do more.” She smiled, said thank you and as I began to walk away she said “it was nice to meet you Cara(pronounced correctly) and I love your shirt.”

Best. Moment. Ever.

2017 will ALWAYS and forever bring fond memories.

Thanks for reading!

For now,

Cara Roxanne

If you don’t get the March… 

I understand that many people are confused about the March that happened this weekend. I can understand your confusion to a certain point. The way I see it is if I do not understand something I try to seek out information so that I can understand it. So many people would rather just say “I don’t understand something” and judge something without trying to understand it. Let me see if I can break this down for you.

womens-march

A few things I want to point out first

#1- I did not go to the March this weekend.It was not because I did not want to, but because I had to work. If I did not have to work I would’ve been at the one here in Little Rock, Arkansas.

#2- While I personally believe that the March was a great way for many people to voice their concern and to come together as a unified body, I also think there are other things that could have been done and should be done.

Here is what happened in MY opinion and from MY perspective. Don’t attack me or start a war with me. I’m not saying that I have everything 100% correct and I definitely don’t have things accurate from your perspective, but these are the way that I see things and how I try to explain it to people that have asked me what the heck is going on with this March.

1- We {women} almost shattered the glass ceiling. We almost had Hillary Rodham Clinton as the first female president in the history of the United States of America. And by almost had it I mean she had more votes than our current president Donald Trump. For many women, having a female president doesn’t really mean anything to them and they don’t see the value in having a female president. But for many of us it was all we could live, think, breath we almost had Hillary Rodham Clinton as the first female president in the history of the United States of America. And by almost had it I mean she had more votes than our current president Donald Trump. For many women, having a female president doesn’t really mean anything to them and they don’t see the value in having a female president. But for many of us it was all we could live, think, breathe, and pray about for months. Women have yet to be represented in this country by female president while so many other countries have already made that leap into having females in the highest power in their country. We almost had it and it didn’t happen. And I don’t want to leave out the part about how much people like Hillary Clinton. (Many) Women in this world connected with her and felt like she was the perfect female to lead our country as the very first woman president of the United States of America.

2- so now you have a lot of people in this country (I’m talking women here) Who are devastated and heartbroken over the fact that we were this close to having a female president and it did not happen. And now these heartbroken individuals have a president elect who has talked so poorly of women and has used vulgar and derogatory terms to describe women. We have had to hear our now president Donald Trump talk about how when you have power and money you can grope a woman if you want to.

3- now you have to look at the fact that the new president wants to stop Planned Parenthood and is being very vocal about what he thinks should happen to women who choose to have an abortion. I’m not going into my personal beliefs on this matter in this particular post, but this is a factor that played into this March that took place. If you are not pro-choice, you may be blind sided to the good (non abortion) aspects of Planned Parenthood. I’m not saying it’s perfect and I’m not saying changes shouldn’t be made to the funding process. But don’t lose sight of the good because you don’t like the bad.

4- “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.” That’s one way to put it but my papa Joe always said “the right nothing meaner than a mean woman.” I believe that’s true 🙂 if you want to make a mistake and be miserable, any man knows all you have to do is make a woman mad. Every single man in the world knows that. Yet Donald Trump managed to make a large portion of the females in this country very angry.

In case that got too wordy or you did not follow what I was saying I’m going to break it down very small for you.

1. We like Hillary

2. She almost won. She was so so close to being the first female president.

3. She lost to a man who talked about using power to be able to do anything he wants to towards a woman.

4. He decided to take on PP and was vocal about his thoughts on birth control not being free, abortion being jail worthy, and made comments about a woman “being on her.. whatever”

5. All of the above made women mad and they chose to band together in protest. Mad women can take over the world! <or at least try>

I understand that you still may not get it. And I don’t know that I’m the person that could explain it to you. I also think that if you are pro trump you may never get it. And that’s OK. That’s the thing here people, we don’t have to get one another fully to be respectful and to be kind. I’m not quite sure how many times I have to mention in my blog that my husband and I are on opposite sides of the party lines. That being said, thankfully, he did not vote for Donald Trump. But he is a Republican through and through. We are married, have a wonderful marriage, have a great conversation and so much fun together and we do not disrespect each other. So when I put something on Facebook that I find humorous and someone comment something tacky I can’t help but wonder “what is their problem”?

Live in harmony. If you aren’t for the March, please don’t March. If you are for the March, March your ass off. If you are anti-protest please do not protest anything. If you are for protesting then please protest with all of your might and give it 100%. If you are not for abortion please do not have an abortion. If you are not for taking birth control by all means please do not take it. If you do not understand something and it literally keeps you up at night I ask you wholeheartedly to please seek out the information that you need to gain an understanding. And remember this… understanding something doesn’t mean you change your personal opinion. When people can grasp that an understanding of something does not mean that your mind has to be changed we can truly begin to love each other the way we are called to do. Whether you believe in God or you do not, you need to be kind and loving to your neighbor. And I am the worlds biggest smart elec but please do not take the word neighbor and tell me you live out in the country. You know what that phrase means and you know that means to simply be kind to each other.

That’s why people were mad enough to march. If it doesn’t seem like enough to you then it’s probably a good thing you didn’t go.

Pizza Party on Fridays…

“And if you vote for me, I will make sure we have a pizza party EVERY Friday in the teachers lounge.”

I was in 5th grade. I just freaking wanted to be student council president. I was all set to win. The odds were in my favor. And then- the candidate I ran against busted out the “pizza party on Fridays” line and he won. I was devastated. I remember telling my mom through tears “Don’t people realize he can’t do that??”

I DESPISE BLANKET STATEMENTS.

DISCLAIMER–**But, for the sake of my blog I am not going to qualify each thing I say. I am qualifying it now. {As I have done in previous posts} I understand that every Republican/Conservative in the world does not feel this way and does not like who our President Elect is. HEAR ME WHEN I SAY THAT. I will use blanket statements for the sake of this blog, and my posts, but I in no way think that everyone shares the same feelings as other members of their respective parties. **

You just voted for the pizza party.

And it ain’t going to happen.

  1. You think you finally have a President that “hears you”. With all sincerity I say to people that feel this way… “HUH?” I mean I get it. I always think people who have never lived my lifestyle, don’t know anything about middle class America, and don’t even know where my state is, MUST be the type of person to “hear me” when I talk. (Where’s the emoji with the eyes looking up in a sarcastic way when you need it?)
  2. “But he’s going to stand for what I stand for! He’s going to get rid of gay marriage and abortion!” WRONG. He doesn’t have that power and 2 days after he was elected he recanted doing anything about either of those. He’s not building a wall either.
  3. “He’s not taking a salary! I mean come on guys, that is so admirable. Hillary totally would have taken a salary.” Ummm— he’s not taking a salary- good for him. He’s just going to cost America more in secret service/guards/protection than any president in history due to the fact that his family is not embracing the White House and he is said himself that he does not want to be there “full time.” Yes kudos for not taking the salary. {Gosh I need that emoji again}
  4. “The stock market has already gone up since the day he was elected!” Yep. And so have gas prices.

 

Enjoy your pizza.

Whole 30 Day 2… I can do it!

Today is Day 2 of my Whole 30 experience. I can do this. Right? {No-I am literally asking for encouragement right now.}

I mentioned yesterday that I have stomach issues. Hence the whole reason I am doing the Whole 30. There are times my stomach sounds as if there is an alien growing inside of me. (I have actually been asked if there was an alien growing inside of me by someone who heard my stomach. Why yes, kind sir. I am growing an alien inside of me. I cannot grow children in my womb but I can grow an alien in my stomach.) But for real- it’s bad. I am hoping that throughout this process of 30 days eating only Whole foods that I can figure out what makes my stomach crazy.

I know very little about the Whole 30.

I didn’t take the time to read stories about the Whole 30. I strictly googled “what can I eat on the Whole 30” and “What can I not eat on the Whole 30”. I don’t care why it came about. I don’t want to read about what refined-processed-partially hydrogenated- anything does to my body. I know it ain’t good. That’s not what this about for me. I am not trying to turn organic. I am trying to create a sense of normalcy for my intestines, stomach, and bowels.

So let’s say that you stumbled upon this blog and feel like me. You just really don’t care about why this is a good diet and all of the wonderful benefits… you just either want to try it for a quick, short lived fix on losing some pounds, or you are just a glutton for punishment and wanna give it a whirl… here is what you need to know.

  1. You can’t have peanuts or peanut butter. I know, right? But you can have other nuts. They say they are “tree nuts” but really just keep in mind you can have the expensive nuts. Pistachios, almonds, etc.
  2. You can eat a lot of meat and eggs. Roast, steak, pork chop, chicken, sausage, shrimp, fish… you name it you can eat. Lots of eggs! That part I do actually enjoy. I like starting my day with eggs and bacon.
  3. You cannot have dairy. Even yogurt with billions of live probiotics. You cannot have it. Almond milk only if it is unsweetened. No cheese.
  4. You can have potatoes! Bake them, boil them, slice them up and bake them. Just don’t add butter or sour cream and be careful on the ketchup (it can have sugar added). So eat the heck out of some potatoes. #carbs
  5. That brings me to the saddest part-=– no sugar. Seriously. NO. SUGAR. I’ll just leave that there. Basically you cannot have anything that I haven’t already mentioned.

Keep this in mind. For snacks you can have tons of fruit, unsweetened applesauce, nuts, and almond butter. And really that is it. But you can make a combination of those. I know I know… it sounds crazy. And maybe it’s because i’m a tad cranky. This is why I should have done more research but I didn’t want to- so I didn’t. I’ll keep going. You keep reading.

Breakfast: 2 fried eggs and 2 pieces of sausage. 3 cups of coffee.

Lunch: Big salad!! lots of spinach, cherry tomatoes, celery, onion, chicken lunch meat (organic, natural, and on sale).

Dinner: Big ol’ juicy steak with all Whole 30 approved spices. Mushrooms sauteed in coconut oil and olive oil. Red boiled potatoes with salt and pepper.

Snacks: Boiled egg. 2 packs of raisins. 1 scoop of Almond butter. Handful of pistachios.

Take away’s from today:

I didn’t miss the butter and sour cream on my potatoes. I craved caffeine more than I think I ever have. I don’t typically drink cokes like ever yet today all I could think about was Dr. Pepper. I assume this is detox? I have 4 boxes in my freezer of cherry cordials. They were supposed to last me until March. I’m the only one in the house that eats them and that makes me happy! 🙂 However– i’m thinking once this 30 days is over I may just eat them all in one sitting.

I’m surviving… but i’m dang sure not thriving. #ineedsugar

 

 

Why IS my heart so broken?

I have spent all week trying to put into words why my heart is SO broken over this election. I may not have it ALL figured out, but I think now I can speak my mind at least to some degree.

 1. I personally LOVE Hillary.

Sure, she has made her fair share of mistakes. She deleted emails. And hear me say– that was WRONG. That couldn’t be more wrong. Not only did she delete them, but she KNEW better. It was kind of as if she was saying “the rules don’t apply to me.” I don’t like that. She knew better. She shouldn’t have done that. But let’s move on now… I have respect for her. She gave her adult life to making a difference. She made a difference while being the First Lady of Arkansas, she made a difference while being the First Lady of our country, and she made a difference as Secretary of State. Her accomplishments are endless. She has self-lessly (and probably at times self-ISH-ly) given of her time, her money, and her ability to make things happen. For that- my admiration is so strong.

2. The thought of a woman President made me giddy.

It’s time, y’all! It’s freaking time! We have had some amazing men run this country. Now I can say we have had men of different races run our country. What about a woman? It’s just time! It’s time to bring a female perspective to the way our country is ran. It is time to have a woman be in the highest position in this country. It IS time! I am proud to be a woman. I am proud of the differences I have because of having the nurturing, yet sometimes, emotional, traits that a woman possesses. I am STILL proud to be a woman, but America, it IS time for a woman to be President of the United States of America. I remember about 4 years ago when I told my daughter she could be anything she wanted to be. She went through a list of things: veterinarian, teacher, astronaut, and I replied yes to all of them. I looked at her and said “You could even be the President of the United States if you wanted to be.” She looked at me with her big eyes and said “I can’t do that mommy… that’s a man’s job.” I wanted to be able to tell her Wednesday that it had just happened- a woman had just been elected to run our country. And instead I had to explain how Donald Trump would [attempt] to run our country. I was ready to rewrite history. Don’t get me wrong- we are rewriting alright…just not in the way I had hoped.

Two years ago I posted a photo on my Facebook page. It was a photo of a bumper sticker had just gotten in the mail (from joining Emily’s List) and it said “A Woman’s Place is in the White House.” I was so proud of that! Someone I know well commented and said “No- a woman’s place is in the kitchen.” This was not said in gist. This same person replied to another similar photo this week where I had mentioned how I truly hoped in my lifetime I would see a female run our country. His response “I hope it’s not in mine.” This is yet another reason why I am so convinced that IT IS TIME for a female to run our country. These small minded, misogynous, attitudes have got to be put in their place!

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3. America IS great. (in my opinion)

We don’t need to make it great “again” as Trump so loudly and proudly proclaimed (while wearing a hate made from China, I might add). America IS great! We aren’t the best at everything we do. We are behind is health care and education (and probably more areas) but we ARE a great country. We don’t need to go back in time and make changes to send us back in time… we are great NOW.

4. Donald Trump is an embarrassment to human beings. (in my opinion)

Donald Trump is NOT a man of character. He is NOT a man of faith. He is NOT a man I would want around my child. He is NOT the type of person I want in my life… let alone the type of man I want running this country. He has offended men (by insinuating that all men talk the way he was speaking on that video), he has offended women by degrading and insulting us by speaking of women as if we are “sex objects”, he has offended special needs individuals, he has offended individuals of other races and orientations. He has blanketed Hispanics as being “rapists” and “murderers” and has chosen a running mate that believes in therapy that can be used to “fix” homosexuals. Y’all- I am embarrassed.

5. I believe in having an open mind and an open heart.

I believe with all of my heart that Jesus loves all of us. He loves those of us who are of different races, backgrounds, SES, religions and sexual orientations. I don’t believe that we have to “celebrate” all of these differences (parades, special days, etc) but we DO have to love them. For me, when a President shows discrimination against minority groups, he is NOT loving them and he is not being open minded to those that are different from him. I believe that making a choice for someone else is wrong.

There will be more.. but for now, this is what I can digest and ponder on. This has been such a hard week. I’m exhausted, and i’m pressing on. The mourning is starting to end and the fire has been lit. I don’t like what I see in our Nation. I can’t just sit back and say “I wish people knew {fill in the blank}”. I have to make SURE that they know! Hillary- your inspiration has been passed on to a generation of women who are fed up and fired up. This is OUR fight song!

With much inspiration, sincerity, and love,

Roxy

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